Before writing about anger, I remember that it is one of the seven deadly sins and I look to see what the internet tells us about it. I find 10 tips: think before you speak, once you calm down, express your anger, do some exercise, take some time to reflect, identify possible solutions, use first-person statements, don't hold a grudge, use humor to relieve tension, practice relaxation techniques, know when to seek help.
Take it now! In English they say “easier said than done”, easier said than done. It's complicated. Anger arises as a result of things or people not being or doing what we want or expect from them. Frustration increases, anger also increases, and some people with difficulty controlling impulses act violently and aggressively. We have as an example domestic violence with that desire to control the other so that they do what we want and expect from them.
Tips are fine. We say that feelings are what they are, anger is anger and it's hard to stop feeling it, but we can always work on what we choose to do. I always recommend to my patients that when they experience that feeling of rage, and they are afraid of getting out of control, they withdraw, go for a walk. Wait until it happens to, using Rosenberg's nonviolent communication, find solutions to conflicts. There is no doubt that sleeping well and exercising are always good for mental health, that the goal is not to act in an uncontrolled way but to be able to stop and think, that we want to reach agreements that work to reduce anxiety, that we have to talk about slowly and manage thoughts better. Paul Watzlawick in his book The art of embittering life tells us how in our head, interpreting reality in our own way, we are capable of insulting a neighbor from whom we wanted to ask for a hammer, simply imagining that he did not want to lend it to us. Proper management of thoughts so as not to generate anger in situations that have not happened is undoubtedly a way to “control more”. Working on gratitude and resentment... a difficult characteristic to modify, using humor (for those who know) and learning to relax are also good tips.