What is assertiveness?
It is a form of communication that has the purpose of defending your assertive rights, expressing your preferences, tastes, requests and making suggestions, honestly and with respect towards others and above all, towards yourself and your needs.
Within assertiveness it is important to take into account that we are talking about a continuum, that is, it is not about being assertive or not, but rather that one can be assertive to different degrees. Within this continuum we also find passive or submissive behaviors and aggressive behaviors. It is normal that people, depending on the context and the people with whom we communicate, behave in different ways, and also, an assertive response is not always the best way to achieve our objectives (there will be occasions when to avoid conflicts we have to behave passively and others in which to be heard we will be forced to maintain a more aggressive behavior). But as mentioned above, assertive behavior in most cases helps us achieve goals and is positive for maintaining interpersonal relationships.
What are the assertive rights
The right to maintain your dignity and respect by behaving skillfully or assertively, even if the other person feels hurt, as long as you don't violate the rights of others (how the other feels is not up to me).
The right to be treated with dignity and respect.
The right to refuse requests without feeling selfish or guilty.
The right to express your own feelings.
The right to stop and think before acting.
The right to change your ideas.
The right to ask for what you want.
The right to say no.
The right to accomplish less than is humanly possible for you.
The right not to depend on others.
The right to be able to decide what to do with your time, body and property.
The right to request information.
The right to make mistakes and assume them.
The right to feel good about yourself.
The right to have your own needs and lose (not demand) others to respond to them.
The right to have one's own opinions and to express them.
The right to decide if you follow the interests of other people or your own interests.
The right to discuss a problem with the person involved to clarify it.
The right to demand what you pay for.
The right to choose not to behave in an assertive or socially skilled manner.
The right to be heard and to be taken seriously.
The right to remain alone when you decide so.
The right to do anything as long as you don't invade the rights of others.
The right to have rights and defend them.
Good assertive rights skills allow communication to be improved both as a couple and in organizations. Expressing what we want increases our well-being, you can request more information about the benefits of applying and knowing the assertive rights in an organization in the section on contact or reading the article on our networks.